Life’s Lubricant-Stress and the Sex Connection

When sex is going well, everything else in life is smoother. I talk a lot about sex and orgasms. I love sex, it is transcending. But more, I love what it does for every part of our lives.  The chemicals released during sex give us confidence. Sex lowers stress, which […] Read more »

The Condom Cop-out

I keep hearing from both men I meet and my girlfriends, that men complain about condoms. A common gripe is that guys can’t stay hard wearing one. I am obviously not a man and don’t know what it feels like, but to me, that sounds like a mental block. I […] Read more »

Losing Weight is No Longer My New Years Resolution

Casual Sex Ended My Dieting Fixation Obtaining a certain size or weight was my New Years Resolution for a large part of my life. Thinking back, my body fixation started after my parents went through a divorce, when I was 6. My dad said he was leaving because my mom […] Read more »

Consent for Women Outside of the Bedroom

When I first read this article on Vox about consent violations in the blockbuster movie A Star is Born, I thought it was interesting. I personally had not thought of the author’s observations of the situations as consent issues when I watched the movie. That was, until something happened to […] Read more »

Kissing, Casual Sex, and Intimacy

What do you avoid when you are trying to keep your heart out of sex? I have heard that teens give blow jobs as the new “good night kiss” and partake in anal sex instead of vaginal intercourse. I have even heard that boys are telling girls they will still […] Read more »

Welcome Back, Sex!

I usually have a few lovers laying around. Or more like around somewhere, when we can get to each other (it is LA, after all and nothing is close). We sext, we email, I am on Tinder occasionally, and I tend to have one or two in the pipeline. The […] Read more »

Hand Massage Hits the Right Spot

A Favorite Quick Tip! Non-sexual touching has been used as an erotic interlude since Masters and Johnson. These days we are starved for touch, more than ever. We live in cyberspace, buried in our devices. I urge you to connect with your lover tonight. Sometimes one or both of you […] Read more »

Lube Can Make it Better

Recently, UFC fighter Rhonda Rousey thought she was doing women “a favor” by telling her Maxim readers, “What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need […] Read more »